Continue On

                                                      CONTINUE ON 
        (by Roy Lessin, author of How to Be the Parents of Happy and Obedient Children)


                 A woman fretted over the usefulness of her life.
                 She feared she was wasting her potential being a devoted wife and mother.
                 She wondered if the time and energy she invested in her husband
                      and children would make a difference.
                 At times she got discouraged because so much of what she did
                      seemed to go unnoticed and unappreciated.
                "Is it worth it?" she often wondered.  "Is there something better that I could
                      be doing with my time?"
                  It was during one of these moments of questioning that she heard
                      the still, small voice of her Heavenly Father speak to her heart.
                  You are a wife and mother because that is what I have called you to be.
                  Much of what you do is hidden from the public eye, but I notice.
                  Much of what you give is done without remuneration.
                  But I am your reward.
                  Your husband cannot be the man I have called him to be
                      without your support.
                  Your influence on him is greater than you think
                      and more powerful than you will ever know.
                   I bless him through your service and honor him through your love.
                   Your children are precious to me.
                   Even more precious than they are to you.
                   I have entrusted them to your care to raise for Me.
                   What you invest in them is an offering to Me.
                   You may never be in the public spotlight, but your obedience shines as a
                       bright light before Me.
                   Continue on.  Remember you are my servant.
                   Do all to please me.
                

Keeping Perspective

                                                                              LOVE
                                                                        by Jim Fowler


                       If I live in a house of spotless beauty with everything in its place,
                           but have not love--I am a housekeeper, not a homemaker.
                      If I have time for waxing, polishing, and decorative achievements,
                           but have not love--my children learn of cleanliness, not godliness.
                      Love leaves the dust in search of a child's laugh.
                      Love smiles at the tiny fingerprints on a newly cleaned window.
                      Love wipes away the tears before it wipes up the spilled milk.
                      Love picks up the child before it picks up the toys.
                      Love is present through trials.
                      Love reprimands, reproves and is responsive.
                      As a mother there is much I must teach my child,
                           but the greatest of all is.......LOVE.


Good one to post somewhere in your house to remind yourself everyday of what's the most important thing we can give our kids, especially if you're having one of "those" days.

A Mother's Heart-Teaching Love

As mothers, our plates are so full with all the things that must be accomplished in a day.  We have to work, have appointments, errands to run, a daily schedule to follow, etc. I don't know about you, but I'm certainly guilty of rushing my kids out the door, or telling them we'll do something they want to do LATER because I'm just so busy.  My patience has worn thin many a day.  But who am I really disappointed with? Myself.  If I had just planned things better, gotten up earlier, did this or that, I wouldn't be snapping at the kids, right?  That sets the tone for the day-disappointment and frustration with who? myself.  But who gets the brunt of it? the kids (and sometimes my poor husband).  As mothers, we carry a big weight around-a weight of responsibility.  We want to be the perfect mom perfect house, perfect kids, home-cooked healthy meals, homemade costumes, playful, patient, calm, loving, and supportive, etc.   You get the picture, right-the Beaver's mom.  In reality, we can't do this all on our own.  We have good intentions, yes, but we're human with human weaknesses.  We need God's help to give us strength and to help us overcome these areas.  Michelle Duggar describes her defining frustrating prayer this way: " Father, I don't want my children to remember me as a mama who was constantly fussing at them and raising my voice at them.  I want them to remember me as a joyful and happy mama who loves being with them.  God, please help me in those difficult moments to have the right response to the anger I feel welling up inside me."  Isn't that the prayer of all moms?  God answered her prayer and showed her a better way to handle these situations.  She is still struggling with that issue, because she's human, but she's reminded of the damaging effects that anger has on the kids and so she continues to work at it.  I think that's as honest as they come.  That pretty much sums up my situation exactly.  Stumble, feel bad, apologize to the kids, then stumble again, a continuous cycle, and I wonder what my kids are learning from me exactly.  Now, I've never seen Michelle yell at her kids on their TV show, but it's nice to see that there's hope for moms like me-but she didn't overcome instantly.  She had to work at it. It's a daily struggle that she goes to God in prayer with and He helps her.  We have to do the same thing.  Don't beat yourself up because you fall or have a bad day.  Go to God, talk with your kids, apologize (yes, apologize) be honest with them about your struggle, then go on.  Your kids know you're not perfect.  But if they know you keep picking yourself up, that you're seeking God for help with it, it's hope for them, too, when they face their own struggles. When they see you improving and overcoming, it'll encourage them as well.

Though the following was Michelle's answer and it may indeed help you, I encourage you to seek God for yourself and let Him guide you for the answer to your own  personal situation-He may have a different answer for you.
A soft answer turns away wrath; but grievous words stir up strife. (scripture reference) I'm not going to bicker, not going to nag, not going to ask the kids ten times to do something.  I'm going to lovingly say it once, and if they don't obey, then I'll quickly correct them in love, encourage them in a soft voice to do what's right, and then move on.  I'm going to use a soft, low voice, no matter what.  If they don't listen, I'll follow through with correction, but even then, I'll stay calm and speak softly.

Believe me, this sounds impossible to me right now.  I see my inadequacies and failures, BUT, our God is a God of impossibilities.  Is anything too hard for the Lord?  So, I will put my trust in the Lord and let Him make the change in me.  All He requires is a willing heart, right?  He is the potter, I am the clay.  Who says the potter cannot knock out all the bubbles that are causing imperfections in my pot and mold me into something beautiful.  Who am I to say it's not possible.  If God saved you, forgave your sins, healed your broken heart, filled you with His Holy Spirit and set you on a new course in life, can't he shape you into a wonderful mom, too?  He can do ANYTHING!  All we have to do is trust and believe.  You trust Him with your soul, your family, your finances, your healing, your marriage, why not this?  It doesn't matter what your family background is or what things you experienced as a child, you are not doomed to repeat the mistakes of your parents/caregivers.  You may never have experienced the love of a parent and don't know how to love a child. He can heal you of those hidden hurts, the low self-confidence and fears and replace them with understanding, loving kindness, gentleness, patience, etc.  He can mold you into something beautiful, something after His own heart.  Isn't that what we all want to have-a clean heart, a right spirit.  I challenge you-Give it all to Jesus and watch what He will do with your life.    

            

Michelle Duggar's Personal Testimony

If you're a mom, you know who she is...you've seen her family's show on TLC and you probably have formed your own opinion about her... too many kids, crazy, sheltering her kids, out-of-touch with the real world, misguided, brainwashing her kids, etc.  To me, she's a great role model.  Now, that doesn't mean I want to have 19 kids.  To me, she is an inspiration because of the love she has for God and the way she's chosen to live her life as a wife and mother.  We all wish we could have the ideal christian home where peace and harmony always abound, where everyone knows they're loved and cherished, where old-fashioned moral christian values are taught and most importantly modeled for us in the lives of our parents.  While I may not share her religious beliefs in their entirety, (I believe she is a baptist and I am not),  I do agree with her faith in the Lord Jesus Christ and am very inspired by the way she and her husband are choosing to raise their children.  This couple has endured much criticism about their large, christian family but I am inspired by the fact that through all the adversity and ill-will sometimes shown to them in chat rooms, facebook, and various media outlets, they continue on and haven't compromised.  They are on TV in the hopes that others will be inspired to look to Jesus Christ for their answer as well.  They strive to keep God #1 in their individual and family's lives and teach their children the importance of doing that also.  Even when faced with adversity and grief, they want their show to continue taping through those times in the hopes that it will inspire someone else who is going through a similar trial to look to Jesus for their hope.  I believe that is why their show has been so successful while other reality shows about exceptional families may have burned out with some of those families actually becoming dysfunctional.  They do not compromise their beliefs just to be popular.  They stay true to what they believe no matter what others may think of them.  I have to say, as much as people criticize this family, I don't think anyone could meet Michelle in person and leave without having a great respect for her.
I hope this testimony inspires both young and old to want to know God for yourself, to be a testimony to those you meet and to stand strong in your christian beliefs no matter what opposition you may face...to strive to have that peace in your heart that emanates from Michelle, to strive to be a better wife and mother...to be the kind of woman that God wants you to be, not what the world does.  When it all comes down at the end of our time here on earth, who's opinion will matter the most to us...the world's or God's?